Force Me, Please: On Noncon and Noncon Play in Fanfic
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| Title: | Force Me, Please: On Noncon and Noncon Play in Fanfic |
| Creator: | bironic |
| Date(s): | May 2011 |
| Medium: | online |
| Fandom: | multi |
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| External Links: | Force Me, Please: On Noncon and Noncon Play in Fanfic; archive link page 1; archive link page 2 |
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Force Me, Please: On Noncon and Noncon Play in Fanfic (at Dreamwidth), or That essay on noncon/consent play (at LiveJournal) is a 2011 essay by bironic which explores the appeal that non-con topic in fanfic has for them.
The essay contains many links to examples.
Excerpt
This is an essay about nonconsensual sex (noncon) and noncon roleplay in fanfic, why I love them, why they may work for other people, and how approximately one zillion kinks complement them. With 45 recs sprinkled throughout.
A bit about where I'm coming from
When the Kink Bingo mods put out the call for ramp-up meta, I immediately volunteered to write about consent play. See, I glomp on to stories that have noncon warnings or noncon roleplay scenes. I will soldier on through terrible, terrible stories if I am promised such a scene. I search for noncon in fandoms I don't know (and in films and such, but that's another discussion). I am the sicko who rents The Last House on the Left because I want to watch the rape scene. I like my porn stars tied up and teary-eyed.
Here we get a little into TMI territory. I've loved noncon and have had rape fantasies since as far back as I can remember. We're talking about feeling aroused—or whatever you can call arousal when you're a proto-sexual child—watching Care Bears and My Little Ponies (go to 6:10) [1] trapped on conveyor belts, watching Donald Duck getting stripped for an exam (go to 3:30) [2], tying up Barbies naked and constructing elaborate abduction scenarios with Legos. Sex didn't really excite me unless there was some element of threat or force. (Witness also the genesis of my preferences for bondage, exposure and medical kink, heh.)
Liking fictional rape was a huge source of confusion and shame for me growing up. My friends made grossed-out or disturbed faces when I talked about who I thought were sexy, sexually threatening villains in movies or showed them Mary Sue scenes I'd written. I would blush when something noncon-y occurred in a movie or TV show that I was watching with my parents; it took me years to figure out that that was because I thought they'd know I was turned on by it. It didn't even have to be an out-and-out rape scene. Because, honestly! The Emperor zapping Luke Skywalker until he writhed on the ground! Gul Madred stripping and suspending Captain Picard! Gary Oldman stroking terrified girls' faces in Air Force One and The Professional! The beginning of just about every Law & Order: SVU episode! *shivers with joy* No one I knew shared my predilections, so I learned to keep quiet about them.
Then the Internet and fandom happened. There was noncon everywhere, expansions of some of the scenes and relationships I'd loved and them some. Other people liked noncon too, and they weren't ashamed. Soon I stopped being ashamed and started celebrating it. Now I'm writing an essay about it for an audience of people who might also like it or be curious about it.
So that's pretty awesome.
I'm a cisgendered female, and I should say that I have not experienced rape in real life. Note that that's not an obvious statement. There are of course people who've experienced sexual assault who can't abide noncon-themed stories because of that, which is why trigger warnings and content notes are so important. But there are also some people who have been sexually assaulted or abused and who do read and/or write noncon or noncon roleplay fic. For at least one of them whom I know, it's a source of catharsis. It varies, is the point.
So that's a bit of where I'm coming from, and as noted above, I thought it would be interesting to try to explain why noncon and noncon play appeal to me. Back in December during the Bingo mini-challenge, an anonymous commenter asked if someone would write an essay about consent play similar to the one about erotic humiliation. It's been kicking around in my head to do this ever since. I don't know that I can approach the insight and intelligence of the humiliation essay, but I hope this is still illuminating.
Fan Comments
21 comments at LiveJournal: That essay on noncon/consent play: bironic, Archived version
130 comments at kink_bingo Dreamwidth: page one; archive link page one, expanded comments; page two; archive link page two, expanded comments