Enemies to Lovers
|Trope · Genre|
|Synonyms:||Enemies to Friends to Lovers|
|Related:||Rivals to Lovers|
|See Also:||Enemyslash, Hatesex, Friends to Lovers|
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Enemies to Lovers is a common trope in erotic and romantic literature which regularly appears in fan fiction.
The two characters often have a long history of conflict with each other. They may be on opposite sides of a struggle, or may have just met under unfortunate circumstances and their personalities clashed. There is often a lot of bickering and UST.
Enemies may be forced to work together to achieve a common goal and come to respect one another, building slowly to a sexual relationship. Their relationship may change as a result of circumstances. Fic authors have used Forced Marriage, Sex Pollen, Amnesia or Soulmates AU to get their pairing together.
It is sometimes heavily debated exactly how "enemies" is defined in the trope, and what kind of enemies people should be for their romance to still be plausible and enjoyable. There are those who argue that some scenarios are too dark for them to support and some characters too evil to be redeemed, while others are against such limitations. Different opinions among enemies to lovers fans may lead to disagreements.
Enemies to Friends to Lovers
Although Enemies to Friends to Lovers and Enemies to Lovers can be thought as one and the same, that is not always the case. Sometimes two characters who are enemies, and have UST, pivot quickly into having a sexual (or romantic) relationship, skipping the step of developing a friendship first, for some fans this is satisfactory because they wish to see the pairing together, but for many the friendship component is crucial for them to accept and enjoy the pairing.
I mean I SAY I love the ‘Enemies to Lovers’ trope but what I really MEAN is that I love the
‘Enemies to Resentful Allies In A Time Of Crisis to Grudging Mutual Respect to Growing Fondness Concealed By Snark to Hurtful Betrayal to Slow Reconciliation With A Greater Understanding Of Each Other to Strange But Solid Friendship to Unexpected Feelings In A Time Of Crisis to Denying Their Feelings While Growing Closer As Friends to Epiphanies Of Love In The Worst Possible Circumstances to Mutual Pining to Unbearable Sexual Tension to Lovers’trope
Rivals to Lovers
Rivals (to Friends) to Lovers differs from Enemies to Lovers in the severity of the antagonism between the two characters. They will usually dislike each other for less serious reasons, and may feel competitive rather than wishing true harm on the other. Rivals to Lovers works typically involve more fluff as two people learn to get along but do not have to overcome any significant moral disagreements.
learn your dynamics
enemies to lovers: two people on opposite sides of a war, a battle or feud who fall in love and work together to give an end to the conflict.rivals to lovers: there's no war, battle or feud. if there is, they're on the same side. they just hate each other.
having a rival just means youre gay i know we cover this every time but 'rival' is code for fated lover and everyone knows it. i know it. you know it. the people writing it know it.
The distinction between rival and enemies is sometimes unclear. The "Rivals to Lovers" tag on AO3 is synned with "Enemies to Lovers" tag. Some disagree that the two tropes should be equated and strongly prefer one over the other.
“I like enemies to lovers but only when they just disagree or prank each other” u don’t like enemies to lovers then. U like rivals to lovers maybe.enemies to lovers inherently needs suspension of disbelief & a willingness to look at stories through a non-literal lens
Appeal of the trope
Do you know why I love the “enemies to friends to lovers” trope so much? Because a relationship like that involves RESPECT. They start off hating each other and then they have to work togerher until they realize they have something in common, so they develop a respect that slowly turns into love. Those are the most solid ships y’all.
Discussions of the trope
there’s a difference between the ‘enemies-to-lovers’ trope and shipping someone with their abuser
If a ship has someone literally harassing, assaulting, and hate and traumatizing, and then it’s just a kiss and no remorse or apology or growth, it’s abusive. It’s toxic. There’s a difference.
enemies/rivals-to-lovers is a rad trope but it only works if the characters don’t get along because of a dumb misunderstanding not because one of them has committed literal genocide
i love enemies-to-lovers as much as the next person but shipping characters with disgusting bigots/their abusers/etc and calling it "enemies-to-lovers😍" just....ain't it, chief
That's not enemies to lovers, that's a high school debate club lmao.
the enemies-to-lovers debate is stupid. here let me solve it for you: it works and is sexy when they're gay. if they're straight it doesn't work because a man who hurts a woman deserves to be arrested. here you go
just so we're clear on this: enemies = people fighting each other on opposite sides of a conflict, or hating each other and fighting for no good reason
people who compete and fight bc of that = rivals one side tortures/manipulates the victim regardless of relationship = abuse
the lines are obviously not so clear but what defines enemies for me is that they dont have a shared goal (bc thats competiton/rivalry), and abusive relationships arent synonymous with being enemies so obviously thats not what im talking about
(also yeah obvs relationships can be mutually abusive but its a complicated set of circumstances that isnt based on "hate each other and openly want to tear each others throats out")
all that said, romantic rivalry between gay people is also usually infinitely better and sexier than between a man and a womanThis whole thread is embarrassingly sexist without even realizing it. It patronizes women as supposedly inherently weaker than men and it draws a line between what counts as abuse and what doesn't according to the genders involved.
Some of y'all don’t know that it’s supposed to be “Enemies to Allies to Cordial to Friends to Lovers” and not just teleporting from Enemies straight to Lovers and it shows
and as a woman, boy do i personally get the appeal of this trope (as a general concept, even when specific ships don’t resonate w/ me). like we live in a world where men think it’s “weird” that their girlfriend swears or farts; not shaving is a cardinal sin. women’s humanity is disgusting to so many men and even to so many fellow women. women’s righteous anger is laughed at, our legitimate fears are routinely dismissed and belittled. if we’re not nice, if we’re not sweet, if we’re not doormats, we’re discarded; if we are any of those things, we’re looked down on, we’re targeted, we’re blamed.
and people can’t understand at all why we might be drawn to stories where the very forces that oppose us, are so transformed by us, so drawn to us for everything that we are, that they literally leave their old selves behind in the dust to join us and devote themselves entirely to our victory?
[...]and furthermore, since nobody asked me…. the idea that we have to “protect” women from enemies-to-lovers stories, when those exact stories can offer some of us a cathartic brand of fantasy…. whew, fandom. stay infantalizing us i guess.
- Avatar: The Last Airbender - Zuko had a canon redemption arc in the series, and this meant that many later works pairing him with other characters often involved elements of the enemies to lovers trope.
- Arrowverse - the Coldflash pairing, in which Captain Cold is one of The Flash's villains. While this is the most popular Hero/Villain ship in the arrowverse, it is not the only one. Some works in those pairings also employ this trope.
- Buffy the Vampire Slayer - the pairing of Buffy/Spike had a canonical enemies to lovers story arc, that was controversial among fans. Many fans had been exploring this trope in fiction before their relationship became canon, and other fans used fanfiction to fix which they viewed as a poorly managed narrative arc.
- Death Note - the pairing of L/Light often involves the two attempting to manipulate each other through a disingenuous relationship
- Harry Potter - most often in the pairing of Draco Malfoy with either Harry or Hermione
- Star Wars - the pairing of Reylo ships canon adversaries Rey and Kylo Ren, who are discovered to have a Force Bond.
- The 100 - the pairing of Clexa prior to their short lived romantic relationship in canon, as well as the pairing Bellarke, who often find themselves in conflict. The Kabby pairing had a canonical enemies to lovers story arc
- Pokemon (anime): - The pairing of Ash/Misty is often seen as such, due to the pair arguing constantly in the beginning and slowly forming a friendship.
- Voltron: Legendary Defender - the pairing of Lance McClain/Keith. Usually classified as "Rivals to Lovers." The pairing of Keith/James Griffin experienced a surge in visibility after the fans first saw them together in the season 7 trailer.
- The Songbird and the Sea - an extremely popular BTS fanfiction that, as of Feburary 2019, is the most popular work in the Enemies to Lovers tag on AO3.
- Rivals series - an extremely popular Yuri!!! on Ice fanfiction that, as of Feburary 2019, is the second most popular work in the Enemies to Lovers tag.
- Do you have any tips for writing enemies to lovers? a Tumblr post by lets-get-fictional. (November 23 2017)
- ENEMIES TO LOVERS & FRIENDS: A Guest Post by J Emery. (December 29 2018)
- Enemies to Lovers, a Tumblr post by raven-maiden. Discusses categorizing and writing an Enemies to Lovers ship. (Jan 10 2019)
- Do folks genuinely not understand the appeal of the enemies to lovers trope, a Tumblr post by robotmango (January 2, 2020)
- Do people really not see the appeal of enemies-to-lovers? by curlspen aka fontofmercy (March 22 2020)
Archives & Fannish Links
- 27th May 2018 tumblr post by enigmaticagentalice
- Oct 27, 2019 by broccolux
- 4:55 PM - 2 Apr 2019 @blingeed
- Jan 12, 2020 by beverlylove
- Apr 22nd, 2019 by dustineverypage
- deanpinterester, 2016-09-01
- Acaprioglino's tumblr post on the difference between enemies to lovers and abusive relationships.
- Jan 11, 2020 by kzabrekker
- Jan 11, 2020 by jannahskywalker
- Jan 12, 2020 by lordephrim
- 4:14 AM Jan 13, 2020 by HimeTweets
- the-apprentice-bebop, Jan 28th, 2020
- do folks genuinely not understand the appeal of the “enemies to lovers” trope, a Tumblr post by robotmango (January 2, 2020)
- Found via the tag search and sorting February 2019.